Have you ever been in an emotional space that you couldn’t name? “I just feel… bad.” Is it anger? Are you sad? Kind of–but none of those words seem to fit. If you’re like me, you learned to describe it as just being in a...
Counseling isn’t something most men are excited to try. It’s hard to convince us that we can’t just figure things out on our own. But then there comes a revelation, a hidden part of a man’s life comes to light. Now everything he’s built...
There is a silent saboteur in all relationships, and the most insidious aspect is how it disguises itself as an essential prerequisite for intimacy and happiness. I’m talking about expectations. And especially unspoken expectations. We all hope for certain...
“Everything is a fight. Sometimes I can’t even remember what started it. Before I know it we’re both just yelling. I don’t know how it got this way.” Sound familiar? By the time I first meet many of my couple clients, fights colored by...
In the age of Social Media, some important words have become diluted. We click on pages or swipe our way into apps, and there see impressively long lists of “friends” and “connections” showing us what a robust community we supposedly have. And...
As I journey with clients through their stories, the process of reframing narratives and sifting for those nuggets of our true selves is powerful work, but I never assume that it’s all the work that could be done. We are multifaceted creatures who exist in...
I sat at my desk, at the job I’d wanted so badly for years, feeling utterly empty. What was happening? This was it, the thing that I was born to do, destined for. But what I thought would bring purpose, satisfaction, and a feeling of being truly alive was...
When I was ready to finish my graduate degree and begin to branch out into professional practice, I knew Northern Colorado was where I wanted to be. What I didn’t plan on was a part-time gig that would turn into a life-changing experience. I took a position as a...
I might have gone into biological chemistry if I enjoyed math a little more. Lessons on the microscopic world have always fascinated me. It’s enthralling to study the universe of tiny machines at work in every part of our being, each one equipped for infinitely...
