One of the complex topics that comes up when people consider therapy is medication. Often I have new clients who come in with a fear that I’m going to try to sell them on a prescription they don’t want, and others may feel comforted by the idea that what...
Despite my general feelings about social media, one thing I appreciate about Facebook is the memory feature. It prompts gratefulness by recalling good memories with friends, provides perspective by revisiting the exhaustion of grad school while waiting tables...
There comes a time with most of my clients when we need to focus just on the next right step. It doesn’t mean giving up on goals, it’s just acknowledging that there are times when keeping our eye on the big picture is not the most helpful thing. I got a...
Earlier this year, as the reality set in that the COVID crisis wasn’t going to let up as soon as everyone was hoping, I decided to take some of my own advice. Several clients had already expressed their despondency with the state of things back in April, and...
Are men experiencing higher rates of loneliness due to lagging relational skills? Couples’ Psychologist Greg Matos, PsyD. thinks so. “I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available,...
As my clients begin journeying into more authentic relationships, a common question they ask is “Is it codependent to…?” When we have become used to relationships being burdened with unspoken expectations, self-betrayal, and false intimacy, healthy...
“I don’t remember a whole lot before age 14.” This is something I frequently encounter with clients: big empty spaces in their story where they just don’t remember a whole lot. Our long-term memory begins to work when we are still pretty young....
On social media I like to follow topics related to counseling. It helps me stay with the new trends and discoveries of my field and it gives me a look at current attitudes and perceptions around therapy, particularly as it impacts men. For instance, following the...
Just about everyone has observed that smartphones have come to take up a lot of space in our lives. An increasingly common complaint I hear from clients, colleagues, and friends revolve around the unintended costs of not only giving these devices our attention, but...
Men don’t like the word ‘trauma’. Years of working with them in therapy and groups–and, well, being one–has acquainted me a lot of the reasons why. It’s not that trauma doesn’t affect us. It really, really does. Even more than...
